Addicted Partners – INTERNET DATING
Are you dating an addict? Are YOU an addict?
By Susan Unyerly
Addiction is when you repeatedly do something because it lights up the “bliss center” in your brain and you are not aware you are doing it outside of your conscious control.
If you are addicted to one thing, are dating partners assuming you are “weak-willed” or have an overall bad tendency to be manipulated, or addicted to many things?
Smoking- The chemistry of this product creates an addictive dependency in your brain. Smokers and drinkers are more likely to have reactive judgment and engage in spontaneous sex. They usually don’t think very far into the future. You will have more short-term fun with one but more long-term problems
Love- Love is a chemical process in the brain which creates an addiction to a certain person. Oxytocin is very involved in the effect.
Drinking- The chemistry of this product creates an addictive dependency in your brain. Smokers and drinkers are more likely to have reactive judgment and engage in spontaneous sex. They usually don’t think very far into the future. You will have more short-term fun with one but more long-term problems
Eating- Low esteem combined with the chemistry of factory manipulation of processed food products creates an addictive dependency in your brain
Coffee- The chemistry of this product creates an addictive dependency in your brain
Looking at certain kinds of people- A large number of actors get jobs because their facial geometry causes others to stare at them in a transfixed manner because the brain finds that unique symmetry compelling. Many actors are not really that good, they just have the right faces that people like to stare at so studios hire them more
Trying to look like certain kinds of people- People who are socially brainwashed into thinking their worth is based on their
appearance are unable to avoid looking theatrical in their appearance and actions
Gambling- Emotional stimuli causes a dependency on systematic novel new emotional experiences
Tattoos and body modification- The compelling need to ostracize yourself in society by creating turning your body into a statement that is only socially accepted by others who do the same thing creates a reinforcement process that thrills the brain
Dating- Emotional stimuli causes a dependency on systematic novel new emotional experiences
Business Authority Control- Business executives receive a sexual thrill from defeating perceived competitors or “enemies” and hiring escorts
Sex- Emotional stimuli causes a dependency on systematic novel new emotional experiences
Bread- Modern processed bread leaves a morphine-like residue in your brain which keeps you wanting more
Recreational Drugs- The chemistry of these products creates an addictive dependency in your brain
Economic Power- Business executives receive a sexual thrill from defeating perceived competitors or “enemies”
Political Power- Political executives receive a sexual thrill from defeating perceived competitors or “enemies” and controlling masses
Music Beats- Commercial music companies engineer certain repeated sounds into music that addicts your brain
Potato Chips- Modern processed chips leaves a morphine-like residue in your brain which keeps you wanting more. For more on this see: “Salt Sugar Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us”, By Michael Moss (Author) Available on Amazon. Now you can see why there is an entire aisle in the grocery store devoted to chips, because you can’t stop buying them
Cookies- Modern processed high-volume baked goods leaves a morphine-like residue in your brain which keeps you wanting more
Sugar- Modern processed sugar leaves a morphine-like residue in your brain which keeps you wanting more
and other experiences
If you are addicted to one, you are probably easily addicted to all of the rest. Once your brain buys into one addiction it is easier to sell it on others. Consumer products groups know this. If your partner smokes, they are far more likely to become an over-eater, or an alcoholic or a drug user or all of the above.
“Section 8 housing” in America is often predominantly populated by addicts who are unable to function in nine-to-five jobs because of their overwhelming addictions. They are victims of commercialization of their addictions, in many cases. Many addicts use Harley Davidson logos and products to draw other like-minded addicts (usually addicted to alcohol and meth) together in common groups. Do not get mad at them for existing, they are the results of ingested products mass marketing. Modern medical research has discovered that almost 75% of American’s have mental issues and brain chemical errors. Domestic toxins are continually increasing this number every year. The good news is that eventually everyone will be insane and, so with each person being one of them nobody will notice.
Your unconscious makes you get mad, defensive, lie and cheat in order to protect your addictions. You will be programmed by your addiction to protect your addiction.
The worst part is that companies who make things like cigarettes, alcohol, potato chips and other products add chemicals to them that they know will process in your body to become addiction triggers (Some of these companies even get subsidies from your taxes to get to do this).
The first step is to recognize the addiction. Next, know that part of it is your subconscious. Get help from friends and advisors who can look in from the outside and tell you what the “bliss center is saying to you”. The biggest part is recognizing it.
In dating, don’t enable, or help the other person continue, their addiction.
Stories about how addiction has ruined lives are common in our society today. Reports of the lengths addicts will go to and the dark acts they will commit to get drugs, like crack cocaine, heroin and even alcohol, abound — serving as cautionary tales to keep others from following the same path. There are many questions about the nature of addiction. Is denial a good indicator of addiction? Are some drugs as addictive as people say? There are even questions when it comes to drug- and alcohol-use prevention tactics. In
order to persuade a person not to use a substance, the pitfalls of addiction are sometimes overstated. Overexaggeration can cause feelings of distrust.
Perhaps the best approach to the prevention of substance abuse is a clear, concise understanding of the process of addiction and the effects it can have on the user. To that end, researchers have arrived at a trim and science-based view of addiction. We have learned much in the last few decades, including the idea that addiction can come not only from abusing substances, but also with behaviors like sex and eating.
Though we’ve come far in the study of addiction, it’s still a relatively new concept. Just a few hundred years ago, and for centuries before that, the general attitude toward alcohol was that it was consumed because people wanted to consume it, not because of any internal or external necessity [source: Levine]. But as reports and confessions came in from people who felt an irresistible urge to consume alcohol and drugs (once they became more accessible), our idea about some substances changed, and we developed the
concept of addiction.
It was originally believed that some substances, like alcohol and, later, opium, possessed addictive properties, meaning their contents were to blame. That idea later shifted, and addiction was believed to be part of the addict’s character. Dependence on drugs and alcohol was seen as a personality flaw — that the person couldn’t behave himself. Later, addiction came to be seen as
something from which a person suffered, like a disease.
Although we know that certain substances act on the brain in ways that make the individual want to use more, drug addicts and alcoholics are still widely considered by society to be depraved; after all, they chose to use drugs in the first place. And with all of the data available and medical advances achieved in identifying the different aspects of alcohol and substance abuse, science is
still struggling with some key questions, like whether it’s ultimately substances that are addictive or people who are addicted to substances — or both.